Adoption FAQ's

Are you interested in adoption, but have questions you need answered?  Below we've answered many of the questions that we are frequently asked. If you don't find the answer you're looking for please contact us and we'll get back to you as soon as possible.

How much does adoption cost?

  • Costs can vary for each adoption depending on if the birthmother needs help with living or medical expenses.  Your adoption social worker can explain the details of the fees.  Your social worker will also understand your financial position well enough to present you with potential birth mothers that are truly potentials.  You will always know the adoption budget for each potential birth parent you are presented with through All About U Adoptions.  

I’m worried about the birthparent changing their mind.  How long does it take for termination of parental rights?

  • Each state has different laws pertaining to when birthparents rights are terminated. (TPR-Termination of Parental Rights)  Your adoption social worker will be able to provide in-depth answers to this based on the state in question.  In general, it could be as soon as 2 days or as long as several weeks or months.  

What is a homestudy?

  • Birth families want to know that they are placing their baby into a safe, financially stable and loving home.  The purpose of the homestudy is for us to explore all of these areas and help you prepare for your life as adoptive parents.  Our agency will follow relevant state laws pertaining to adoption homestudies. Your homestudy will be completed by a licensed professional.

How do I prepare for a homestudy visit?

  • Be yourself.  We know houses aren’t spotlessly clean all the time.  We don’t expect you to be perfect.  The best way to go through a homestudy is to be yourself and show us what “normal” life is like for you.

Do you visit and observe my family after we have the child?

  • Yes.  Every parent bringing home a child may have visions of a smooth and harmonious transition. That’s not always reality.  As part of the requirements to finalize the adoption, we will be scheduling post placement visits from time to time to explore how things are going.  If you are experiencing challenges adjusting to adoptive parenthood, we’ll help you through them.  These post placement visits further reassure the birth parent(s) that the child is being taken care of. 

How do birth parents select a family?

  • Birth parents are given profiles of adoptive families who meet their general considerations. However, there is no easy answer as to what exactly what makes them choose the family they choose.  Each birth mom has different ideas of what they want their child’s life to be like.  You may be picked because of where you live, what you do for a living, because you don’t have other children or because you DO have other children.   She may see one little thing that strikes a chord with her and causes her to pick you. The best advice we can give is be yourself so that any interaction you have with her will be genuine.

How many adoptions has All About U Adoptions completed?

  • All About U Adoptions has placed hundreds of children in adoptive homes.  On any given year, there may be as few as 15 placements, or as many as 25.  Every child, every birthparent and every adoptive family has a special place in the heart of All About U Adoptions.  None of them are considered just a number.  

What if a birth family isn’t selecting us?

  • This is the part where having patience and faith come into play.  The more restrictions (gender, race, exposure to substances, openness) you place on what birth mother situations you will consider, the longer you may wait to find that perfect match. If you are open to most situations and still not getting selected, your adoption mentor can discuss what the cause may be and what options to consider.

Where are you located?

  • We have business offices in Milbank, South Dakota; Marion, South Dakota; Burlington, North Dakota; Lincoln, Nebraska and Little Rock, Arkansas.  Our staff have home offices in Freeman, SD, Marion, SD; Sioux Falls, SD; Lincoln, NE; Minot, ND; and Little Rock, AR.  Because of the needs of our clients, we will travel to you.  You do not need to come to our offices, unless it is most convenient for you.

You are licensed in SD, ND, NE and AR.  What does that mean?

  • We are licensed to conduct all adoption services in SD, ND, NE and AR.  Should you live in a different state or the birthmother is from a state other than SD, ND, NE or AR, that’s okay!  We can still assist you with your desire to grow your family through adoption by connecting you to services in that state. For questions/concerns about state licensing information please contact relevant state staff. 

Do we have to travel to your office to meet?

  • No.  You can if you want to but generally we travel to meet you at a location that is convenient for you.

How long does it take to be selected by a birth mom?

  • We really can’t guarantee you a match within a set amount of time because we never know what a birth mom will be looking for in an adoptive family.  We work hard to find a birth mother for you even if that means working with another trusted agency.  It is our goal to have a match for you within two years of homestudy approval. However, this is NOT a guarantee, but a goal.  

How do we get started?

  • Contact Coleen so we can start to get to know you and begin the application process.

How long is your waiting list?

  • Generally when we get this question, the real question being asked is one of the following:

How long do we have to wait to get into the All About U Adoptions program?

  • We work one-on-one with each of our families so you will not be waiting for an informational session.  You can start working through our program as you determine whether or not our team is the right fit for you, and we determine if we will be able to help fulfill your dreams of parenthood.

How long until we can get a homestudy?

  • We can start the homestudy process as soon as you are ready.  Our homestudy process is self-paced and primarily conducted in your home.  

​How long until we have baby in our arms?

  • Our goal is to have a match within two years, but this is not a promise or a guarantee.  It is a goal we work tirelessly to achieve.  

Will we know if the baby has health issues?

  • Yes.  We share as much medical information as we have with you. Anything we know, you will know.  We can’t guarantee we’ll have 100% of all the information, just as if you were pregnant. There can always be surprises.  We strongly encourage our birth mothers to get prenatal care, but that is not always possible for them.  We will share all of this information with you on a case by case basis.  

Will we know if the birth mom has abused substances during her pregnancy?

  • Yes.  If she discloses this information to us, you will be made aware of it.  If medical testing finds the information, you will be made aware of the result of this information.

Will you work with us even though we are signed up with another agency?

  • Potentially, please contact us to discuss your needs.This will vary on a case-by-case basis. 

What if we’ve started with you and find a birth mom somewhere else?

  • Our primary focus is fulfilling your desire to become adoptive parents.  Should you work with us and find a birth mom via a different agency, we will rejoice with you.

Who is eligible to adopt?

Demographic requirements

  • Married couples
  • Single individuals
  • Must be 21 years of age or older
  • No criminal history involving violence or crimes against children or felony convictions
  • No substantiated reports of abuse and neglect against children or adults
  • If you have specific questions/concerns about your eligibility to adopt, please discuss this with your adoption social worker during an initial phone call. 

Can we select the gender/race of the child? 

  • Considerations about the type of child you are open to adopting are personal and unique for each family. The more criteria you place on the child you are willing to adopt, typically the longer the process will take for a match and placement. Sometimes is it not possible to meet all requests. 

What if I have an issue/concern with AAU? 

  • Our agency prides itself on providing qualitiy services to everyone. If you have concerns, please contact a member of AAU staff for the agency grievance procedures. 

Are you ready to….

  • Lovingly parent a child?

  • Provide a stable future and home life?

  • Parent a child that will not look like you?

  • Accept that you are not “settling” for an adopted child?

  • Have continued contact with your child’s birth family?

  • Be parents both emotionally and physically?

  • Acknowledge that you will be able to love a child who was not born to you?