During the adoption process, it is essential and critical to have a support system for yourself. Adoption is one of the hardest challenges a birth can face. Birth parents, or birth mothers, to be more specific, experience a wide range of emotions. Along with your body changing, your mindset and emotions also go through an ever-changing process. There are struggles and challenges that have to be accepted when considering and choosing adoption for your child. From this, birth parents deserve a helpful and consistent support system.
Going through the adoption process on your own can be terrifying and intimidating. At All About U Adoptions, we never want you to feel alone! Let’s talk about the support systems you can find and how support can help you.
Where to Find Support During Your Adoption
Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be scary, nerve-wracking, and panic-inducing. In a few moments, your life can turn a bit upside down, and it can be difficult to navigate through it. Being pregnant and experiencing motherhood is not something everyone wants in their life, and that’s okay! To go from here, birth mothers deserve to know what all of their options are and how to proceed.
Adoption agencies want to help guide you through all of these challenges and can offer support counseling for birth parents. At All About U Adoptions, we can connect you to someone who has made the choice you are considering! You can ask her questions about her own experience to better understand yours. Most private agencies also have counseling available for birth parents—this is something you would want to discuss with an adoption specialist.
There are also adoption and birth parent support groups! A support group that’s specific to adoption is an open group of people who have all experienced what you are feeling. For birth parents who are open to forming and creating a connection with others, a support group might be the best option for you. While adoption agencies do offer support counseling, you might be more inclined to join a group setting. Support groups can help women feel a sense of belonging that you might not find anyone else. Being in a support group means opening yourself up to talking with a group of people who understand what you are feeling.
You can also receive support from your friends and family! There is nothing wrong with going this way—sometimes, the closest people in your life understand you and your feelings more than anyone else. People who are close to birth mothers can offer emotional support, practical help, and overall just lend a listening ear.
Why is Support Important for Birth Parents?
To put it simply, adoption is incredibly difficult. Choosing adoption means choosing healing time for yourself and experiencing a period of growth. When you are considering placing your baby for adoption, you need to accept all of the emotions and feelings that will follow. This can include grief, guilt, relief, loss, shame, and confusion. All of these emotions, on top of being pregnant, are hard for just one person to manage.
At All About U Adoptions, we understand how hard it can be to express and process all of your feelings. It’s okay to need extra help! A birth mother goes through so much before, during, and after her adoption. Without processing your emotions, it might linger as you move onto your next chapter in life. Receiving support—whether professionally, at an agency, or with friends and family—is integral for birth mothers.
Birth parent support is important all throughout the adoption process—from your initial decision to years after the process is complete. There is no timeline for healing—we know this can be frustrating, but it really does take time to process and accept before moving forward! Reaching out for support can help birth parents cope with all of the emotions and feelings they face. It also can ease the adoption process—making so many decisions is stressful. Sometimes, just talking to a family or friend is incredibly helpful to relieve some of the pressure off your shoulders.
How Can People Support Birth Parents?
The great thing about seeking support is that it can come from anywhere. Self-care, a kind gesture, even a listening ear! Choosing to support birth parents also means choosing to dispel all of the misconceptions that stem from adoption. Adoption used to have a negative connotation, and for some, it still does. Adoption was known as a taboo subject and was something that should be kept a secret. In our modern-day world, adoption is now normally accepted, and people are open about their adoption experiences.
We want birth parents to feel confident, comfortable, and secure in their adoption choices! There is no quick fix to handling all the emotions that follow with adoption, but there is support and people you can reach out to. Whether that support is professional, provided by an agency, or just talking to your best friend, finding support for yourself is helping you heal.
If you have any questions about adoption or are looking for support on your adoption journey, reach out to All About U Adoptions. We can help you through the process, one step at a time.