Counseling Place Baby Adoption

The Benefits of Counseling When Placing Your Child for Adoption

Counseling Place Baby Adoption

The process and aftermath of placing your baby for adoption can be the catalyst for a variety of emotions. Grief, guilt, and anger among them. Of course, that is not to say they will all be bad. Post-adoption, you may also feel love, gratitude, hope, and relief, among other things. However, it may take giving yourself time to heal from your adoption process to experience these emotions. This is why we offer counseling for placing your child for adoption.

Not everyone can do this part alone—nor should they have to. We at All About U Adoptions are here to help. From finding community resources to accessing your professional counselor at All About U Adoptions, our adoption agency makes sure you get the assistance you need.

The Emotional Effects of Your Adoption in SD, NE, or ND

There is no right or wrong way to feel during and after your adoption process. Instead, the emotions you experience can depend on a variety of factors. These may include your current circumstances—financial, housing, etc.—as well as how and when you got pregnant. 

During and after your adoption process, you may experience emotions, including:

  • Stress and anxiety. You may wonder whether you are doing the right thing by placing your baby for adoption. Additionally, you may feel overwhelmed by the choices you need to make. 
  • Sadness and loss. The period of time following your adoption may lead to feelings of grief regarding the loss of your child, even if you choose an open adoption. Those who stay involved in their child’s life may still grieve the connection they might have had. 
  • Shock. It may take you time to come to terms with the adoption once it has gone through. Particularly if it was a last-minute adoption, leaving you less time to plan and prepare yourself.
  • Anger. You may feel anger regarding whatever circumstances forced you to give your baby for adoption. Additionally, those experiencing an unwanted, unplanned pregnancy may be angry that they have to go through this process at all.  Your anger may be expressed toward your loved ones, your adoption worker, or even the adoptive family.  Know that this anger is a normal reaction and will feel better over time.  Just be ready to acknowledge it.
  • Guilt. You may feel like you could have—or should have—been able to keep your child. That certain life circumstances were preventable or overcomeable. You may even have taken some adoption stigmas—such as adoption being an easy way out—to heart. Know that your child will always know of the greatest love you have for them to be able to make this decision.
  • Love and hope. You may feel love for not only your child but their adoptive family as well. During and after the adoption process, you may hope your child will be loved and cared for. That they will have everything you want for them in life.

How Your South Dakota, Nebraska, or North Dakota Adoption Process Can Affect Your Mental Health

The adoption process may take not only an emotional toll but a mental health one as well. Following your child’s adoption, you may experience depression and anxiety, difficulty sleeping, and other symptoms. These so-called baby blues can be difficult but do not typically last long after the birth. 

Unfortunately for birth mothers, more serious mental health concerns can follow the birth of your child. One such potential challenge is postpartum depression (PPD). While clinical depression can present itself at any time, PPD often occurs within weeks of giving birth. While it is difficult for any birth mother, it may be more so for those who have placed their baby for adoption. You may find it hard to take care of yourself and engage with the world around you. Existing guilt over your child’s adoption may worsen feelings of guilt or inferiority caused by PPD. Those worried about being a good parent may find it difficult to cope without a child to care for. Additionally, long-lasting PPD may become—or serve as a risk factor for—a long-lasting depressive disorder. Particularly if your PPD goes untreated. 

Birth mothers may also experience postpartum anxiety. In this case, typical parental concerns are taken to the extreme. And, like PPD, it may provide unique difficulties for those giving their baby for adoption. Fears about your child’s well-being cannot be quelled somewhat by checking on your child when your child has been adopted. Additionally, also like PPD, it can cause physical symptoms such as sleep and appetite loss that negatively affect your well-being.

The Benefits of Counseling and How Our Adoption Agency Can Help

Forcing yourself to deal with emotional and mental health difficulties on your own may only serve to worsen those feelings. Allow yourself to ask for help when you need it. After all, counseling exists for precisely this reason—to give you the help you need.

Getting help from professionals at All About U Adoptions can benefit you throughout your adoption process in a variety of ways. These may include:

  • Giving you a space to feel, understand, and work through your emotions
  • Helping you to create actionable strategies for self-care and emotional healing
  • Reaffirming that your decision was thought through and made for the benefit of your child
  • Helping you cultivate feelings of hope regarding your child’s future in order to potentially relieve feelings of grief and guilt
  • Reassuring you of the false nature of adoption stigmas. Adoption is not giving up or taking an easy way out. Often, it is an act of great love and strength.
  • Providing you with a source of connection
  • Allowing you to interact with, support, and gain support from others who have been through many of the same difficulties
  • Providing birth mothers facing mental health difficulties with professional care 

If you decide to seek emotional or mental health support, you do not need to go far. We offer all birth mothers access to professionals, mentors, and online group support systems. Our adoption specialists are always ready to listen and offer assistance during your adoption process. 

Taking Care of Your Emotional Health During and After Your Adoption in SD, NE, or ND

There is no one way to feel during and after your adoption process. Equally so, there is no one time to feel these emotions. The creation of your adoption plan might be the catalyst, or it might be the first time you hold your baby. You may experience negative emotions, positive emotions, or both. It is nearly impossible to anticipate how you will feel. And it is equally difficult to anticipate any mental health concerns.

The official end of the adoption process does not always mean there is nothing left to deal with. You still need to take care of yourself post-adoption. Depending on how you are feeling, talking to an adoption professional at All About U Adoptions may be one of the best ways to do this. Professional care gives you a space to feel and work through your emotions and create actionable strategies. With time, patience, and effort, you can begin the process of emotional healing.

For those who decide to work with a counselor, All About U Adoptions can help. Our adoption agencies provide birth mothers with counseling services during and after their adoption process. Additionally, post-adoption, we offer all birth mothers access to mentors and group services. It is our goal to ensure you get everything you need from your adoption process, including whatever emotional and mental health care you are looking for. 

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