The holiday season is a time many look forward to every year. It’s synonymous with thoughtful gifts and fun in the snow, but probably most of all, family. For adoptees, however, it can be a much more complex time. Despite the challenges that may arise, there is still room for joy and celebration during the holidays.
With family being so important, adoptees like you may start questioning your role within your adoptive family. While the holidays can still be enjoyable, there may also be some mixed emotions present. We want you to have a warm and happy time this season, so we’re here to offer support. This can be a difficult time, but help can be found all around you when you need it.
All About U Adoptions has immense experience in supporting every member of the adoption triad. We assist our birth mothers, prospective adoptive families, and adoptees during and long after the adoption. Our adoption agency is ready to help and give advice on how to cope with the holiday season.
Why Do I Feel This Way? An Adoptee’s Journey
While some experience joy and gratitude, others grapple with sadness, longing, or confusion. These emotions can be amplified at large family gatherings where you’re the only adoptee, leading to questions of belonging. While it’s true that this time can bring up difficult emotions, it’s important to remember that it also presents opportunities for growth and healing. By focusing on the positive aspects of this time, we can find strength, courage, and hope to move forward. Ultimately, it depends on your own experiences, but know that whatever you feel during this time is valid.
Your emotions are your own and no one can tell you what you’re supposed to feel. The first step in receiving any kind of help is acknowledging these emotions and accepting them. If you want to improve your well-being, allow yourself to feel these emotions and know that it’s okay to do so. Once you’ve taken that first step, you can then find a way to express those emotions in a positive way.
Practical Tips for Adoptees Seeking Well-Being
With the holidays, there’s no shortage of activities to do. There are the classics like decorating a tree, drinking hot chocolate, and resting by a fire. There’s also plenty of time you can spend with your adoptive family in creative holiday traditions and memories.
One suggestion that All About U Adoptions likes to encourage is to help others during the holidays. There are countless ways to spread joy this season by helping those less fortunate. Consider donating items like clothes and toys to holiday drives that benefit families in need. There are also shelters where you can help serve meals and sort other donations. One of the best ways to help yourself is to help others, allowing yourself to feel fulfilled and satisfied. We encourage you to do activities that bring you joy; those moments are what help the most.
Even if you’re having a difficult time, one way to feel better is to try to focus on the positive aspects of your life and what you are grateful for during the holiday season.
Navigating Your Adoption Journey: Who Should You Talk To?
During a difficult emotional period, it’s important not to be alone. What’s essential for a time like this is a strong support system made up of people close to you. Remember, you’re not alone. Your friends and family will want to help you. Even if they don’t share your status as an adoptee, they can still have unique perspectives to share. Most of all, having their love and companionship can show you that you do belong.
Another source of support we strongly encourage is professional help. All About U Adoptions provides comprehensive counseling and support to adopted individuals, birth parents, and adoptive families throughout the adoption process and beyond. Sometimes, we need someone to listen to us who can be impartial and point out the causes of negative thoughts. Once you learn the causes, you can then learn about practices to prevent those thoughts and find ways to move past them. If professional help is something you feel you truly need, then you should seek it out.
Embracing the Holidays: An Adoptee’s Journey to Joy
Our adoption agencies want to wish you a happy and safe holiday season. It’s a time to be around those you love to celebrate the holiday you believe in. As an adoptee, you may face unique obstacles on your journey to self-discovery. Know that we are here to help you. However, with support and understanding, you can overcome these challenges and build a fulfilling life. You can always reach out to us and we can offer our resources to you. Know that you are an important part of your family and no one can take that away from you.
If you are currently struggling with an unplanned pregnancy or are looking to adopt, contact us right away. All About U Adoptions creates adoption plans in Nebraska, North Dakota, or South Dakota and helps prospective families apply. Regardless of where you are in your adoption journey, we are here to support you throughout the process.